Marriage is a wonderful institution designed by God to allow a man and woman to strengthen each other and thereby themselves in their service to Him. Unfortunately, both the man and the woman bring baggage from each of their respective pasts. When we meet, we have a wonderful time together because we are so 'in love'! But, problems surface and the couple finds they do not have the tools in place to work through their problems. Some seek divorce, thinking that start fresh with someone new is the answer. In actuality, though, the baggage from the old marriage is taken into the new marriage. Old habits, patterns and mannerisms eventually surface.
Why is marriage like this? One common reason is that people do not want to change or do not know how to change. They view change as something that could never happen in their situation; they either allow discouragement to direct their thoughts or they just accept their situation as the way life is.
What is this thing we call love? It's an emotion - something that frequently changes from day to day as our situations change. I Corinthians 13:4-7 gives us an example of love: "Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.: (KJV) This example shows us that love is a by-product of commitment. When people are committed to sports, exercise, repairing things, or some other activity, they have a mind-set that says, "I will get this done, no matter what!" This is how marriage should be thought of - two people coming along side of each other, helping each other get through the day. This can be done by praying together, listening to each others struggles, not holding past events over each other, planning a course in life together, encouraging one another, not having a critical spirit, crying, or laughing together.
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